There’s no one way to win at game.
But if you’re serious about getting good, you should absolutely try everything—at least a little.
Day game. Night game. Online game. Social circle. Try it all.
That said, I’m not a masochist, and I’m not going to tell you to beat your head against the wall doing something you hate.
If day game makes you feel alive and nightclubs make you feel like a drowned cat, then lean into the daytime.
The truth is, your self-belief grows from success. Every win builds momentum. Every reference experience increases your confidence. So it makes way more sense to double down on the format that works best for you . . . and gives you the desire to keep showing up.
But here’s the key—don’t become a one-trick pony.
If you’re only doing day game, you’re missing out on fast reps and high-volume environments. If you’re only doing online dating, you’re not sharpening the in-person skills that actually matter long-term. And if you’re avoiding social settings entirely, you’re cutting yourself off from passive opportunities and the real- world calibration that separates amateurs from naturals.
Treat each mode like a level in a game.
Cold approach teaches you to open. Online gives you fast access to dates. Social circle builds lifestyle abundance.
They all compound. They all connect.
Do what works best for you 80–90% of the time.
But push yourself to round out your skill set with the other 10–20%.
Because when one channel dries up—or when you meet that girl in a new context—you’ll want to be the guy who’s ready.
—Todd V
