When you have established a strong frame, a woman is chasing you, and your game is airtight, you gain a ton of leeway to handle any challenge she throws at you.
But if you aren’t holding a strong frame, passing her shit tests becomes nearly impossible.
Take one of the most common hurdles men face: the age test.
I once saved a messy interaction in San Francisco where a hostile friend hit me with a brutal line: “I think you’re as old as my mom.”
Most guys would immediately panic and deliver a defensive, logical rationalization, totally shattering their frame. Instead I looked at her completely unfazed and flippant, asked how old her mom was, shrugged, and smoothly kept the conversation moving.
Defeating a shit test has very little to do with having the perfect logical answer; it is entirely about your delivery and your refusal to care.
If you answer a personal question with a chip on your shoulder, your delivery sounds reactive and defensive. You must remain entirely aloof.
When a girl targets a vulnerability like your age or your height, turn it back on her playfully.
I once opened a girl at the end of the night who explicitly told me, “You’re too short for me, that’s a dealbreaker. Goodbye.”
Instead of walking away defeated, I smiled and validated her romantic ambitions for us. The interaction went well from there.
Playfully responding to her shit test and focusing on leading the interaction gave me an opportunity to build attraction.
Even when a woman hands you a massive hurdle on the open, remember that a verbal objection is rarely a permanent, structural no.
Stop folding the second a girl tests you.
Remember that you are the prize, pass her shit tests, and lead the interaction exactly where you want it to go.
—Todd V
