If you want better results with women, stop showing up like you’re grateful for their attention.
Start showing up like you’re the main event.
Most guys are too soft. Too nice. Too careful. Especially when they actually like the girl.
That’s when they pull their punches and start tiptoeing around her. The result? Weak, forgettable, flaccid approaches.
What she needs to feel is presence. Seduction. Power.
That unspoken sense of “This guy is a fucking problem . . . and I kinda like it.”
You don’t need to be a dick. But you do need to tease.
You need to push a little. You need to flirt like the guy who’s got options and isn’t afraid to lose her.
That means breaking rapport, adding edge, bringing that cocky energy.
Open like you’re the best thing that’s happened to her all day.
Not literally with those words—but with your vibe, tone, and a smirk that says, “You’re lucky I’m here.”
And when you escalate sexually? Do it with nuance.
Hold eye contact a little too long. Touch lightly, but deliberately.
Layer in just enough innuendo to stir something in her gut . . . but not so much that you’re begging for compliance you haven’t earned yet.
Sex is a dance of tension. You give, you pull away. You heat her up, then make her chase that heat.
Mistakes of timidity are punished. Mistakes of audacity can be corrected.
Be bold, go big, and if you cross a line, walk it back with a smile. That’s high-value.
She doesn’t want a guy who’s confident. She wants a guy who’s so confident, he doesn’t need her to see it.
—Todd V
