If you’re using Hinge, Bumble, or Tinder . . . you’re probably lighting most of your matches on fire.
Not because you’re unattractive. But because your messages are boring, weak, or just plain low-value.
Most men don’t understand how to carry a conversation, lead it, or spike emotions. And that’s why women flake.
Let me be clear: 80% of online dating success comes down to two things—your profile and your messaging. You can’t afford to be average at either.
In this video, I break down two real text conversations that led to dates:
- One is with a sweet girl who agrees to drinks in just two messages.
- The other? A chaotic, spicy Latina whose texts were all over the place—but still led to a phone call and a date.
Why? Because I kept my frame, misinterpreted her sass as flirtation, and only responded to the parts I could use. I didn’t chase. I didn’t validate. I didn’t explain. I led.
Here’s what you need to do:
- Always message from a cocky, playful, man-to-woman frame.
- Use hypothetical roleplay to flirt (“Should we book the wedding venue . . . or grab drinks first?”).
- When a girl sends five chaotic messages? Only respond to the one you can move forward.
- Avoid being overly logical or serious. Keep it light, sexual, and directed toward meeting.
And remember: If she liked your profile, she already likes you. Just don’t screw it up with low-effort messaging.
Make her chase. Keep it fun. Move things forward fast.
—Todd V
