I’m short . . . 5’7” to be exact. And for most of my life, I didn’t even realize that was supposed to be a problem.
By the time I learned being short was a “dealbreaker” for some women, I had already been with 60 of them.
That blind spot turned out to be a blessing.
I never internalized the narrative that my height should limit me.
I just kept improving—my game, my confidence, my success. And guess what? I still outperformed most guys who had all the “genetic advantages.”
Heightism is real, sure.
Women might have a preference, and society might make a few jokes.
But if you let it define you, you’ve already lost.
Most of the time, the rejection isn’t even coming from women—it’s coming from the voice in your head that tells you you’re not enough. Kill that voice.
You’re not just your height. You’re a collection of traits.
Game is one. Confidence is another. Assertiveness. Leadership. Success. Style. Strength. Charisma.
Max out the ones you can control and stop obsessing over the one you can’t.
Lift weights. Learn to fight. Dress well. Be funny. Take the lead. Talk to women. Get rejected. Get accepted. Grow.
When you stack enough of these traits, you become undeniable.
And the best mindset? Don’t even think about it. Let your vibe say: “I’m short—so what?” That oblivious confidence beats insecure overcompensation every time.
Stop making excuses. You’re not too short—you’re just underdeveloped in the areas that matter.
Fix that—and the world opens up.
—Todd V
