Let’s face it—most men struggle with flirting.
They either try to impress women with a “resume” of achievements, drown women in compliments, or act overly sexual, all of which tend to backfire.
But here’s the good news: flirting doesn’t have to be complicated.
In my 24 years of dating and coaching, I’ve discovered one ridiculously simple yet effective flirting method that anyone can use.
Here’s the secret: disagree with her for five minutes, then gradually agree.
Why does this work?
Most men are overly agreeable, constantly trying to win a woman’s approval.
This comes off as needy or fake. Disagreeing, on the other hand, shows confidence and honesty. It creates tension, which is essential for emotional engagement.
Think about a great movie—it’s the tension and eventual resolution that make it exciting.
For example, if she says she loves volleyball, you could playfully respond, “Oh no, volleyball? That’s so last decade. Baseball is where it’s at now.”
The key is to disagree in a light-hearted, playful way. You’re not insulting her or being mean—you’re giving her a fun challenge.
As the conversation progresses, start agreeing more.
This creates a sense of validation for her. When you finally align on something, it feels earned, making the interaction dynamic and engaging.
Once you’ve mastered this, take it to the next level.
Instead of disagreeing about random topics like sports or music, make it personal.
Playfully debate whether you’d make a good travel partner or if you’d get along as a couple. These man-to-woman topics take the interaction to the next level.
So, if you’re new to flirting or just want a foolproof approach, start with this simple method.
Disagree, then eventually agree a bit more, and watch the attraction build.
-Todd V
