When it comes to dating and relationships, anything is possible.
I’ve had encounters where things moved incredibly fast—my fastest experience being a 10-minute interaction that led to sex.
However, let’s be real: this isn’t the norm.
Expecting every situation to unfold that quickly is like trying to defy the laws of physics. It’s setting yourself up for frustration.
The first major point is understanding time and comfort. Most interactions require a certain level of rapport and trust to progress.
If your approach disregards this reality, you’re likely to come across as pushy, needy, or even creepy. That’s not a recipe for success—for you or the girl.
Secondly, consider your agenda.
If your goal is to have a one-night stand within 20 minutes of meeting someone, ask yourself: how many people are genuinely open to that?
Very few.
Most women are looking for meaningful interactions, not rushed encounters with strangers. A rigid, self-centered agenda like that is unpalatable and will likely lead to rejection or uncomfortable situations.
Instead, focus on creating a shared, positive experience.
Approach interactions with the mindset of providing a fun, engaging, and memorable time for both of you.
If sex happens as a natural outcome of a great connection, fantastic.
But making sex your sole focus comes across as transactional and dismissive of her feelings.
Lastly, align your intentions with the girl’s experience.
If your agenda is mutually enjoyable—you want to do something “for” or “with” them rather than “to” them—it becomes appealing.
Aim for interactions rooted in respect, connection, and shared enjoyment.
This mindset not only improves your chances of success but also makes the journey far more rewarding for everyone involved.
-Todd V
