Most guys spend all their time worrying about how to “flip the script” when a woman challenges them. The best way to flip the script, however, is not to flip it at all. . . . It’s to set it in your favor from the very beginning.
If you establish a frame where she is the one chasing from the first thirty seconds, there is nothing there to flip.
When I used to run routine-heavy game, my very first man-to-woman statement was almost always: “You and I would not get along.”
That single line instantly creates sexual tension and establishes a barrier. It signals to her that she hasn’t won me over yet.
Just because a woman has decent genetics and hits the gym doesn’t mean you should be in awe. That is the absolute bare minimum for talking to you.
You bring ambition, intelligence, and growth to the table, and you need to make her work to earn a spot in your reality.
Think of your dating life as a premium company with a strictly limited number of roster spots. Even if you operate in abundance, you can only realistically manage a maximum of three core spots if you want to stay sane.
When you only have three openings for a million hot girls, you are running a selection process more exclusive than Harvard.
Every minute you spend with a low-effort girl takes away from the ideal roster. Treat every introduction like an interview where she faces genuine scrutiny to see if she actually qualifies.
But remember, you can put a girl under intense scrutiny and ask tough questions without ever destroying her self-esteem or being offensive.
In a job interview, it is always crystal clear who holds the valuable resource and who is hoping to get it, yet the conversation remains completely polite.
For example, when a girl tells you her hobbies or the worst trouble she got into as a kid, tease her for having a criminal record, but don’t tell her that her hobbies are stupid.
To execute this effortlessly, you must approach talking to women like an elite actor approaches a role.
Great actors don’t just read lines; they build an extensive backstory so their emotions flow naturally.
Embody your absolute best self—the man whose future success is completely guaranteed because he is doing the work daily.
Value your time right now exactly as much as you will five years from now.
Borrow abundance from your future self, assume the position as the prize, and let her jump through the hoops to win you over.
—Todd V
