There are three specific behaviors in game that I absolutely hate: lewd button pushing, temper tantrums, and turning your win into her loss.
These aren’t just ethical failures; they are tactical blunders that scream low value. If you want to get to an advanced level, you need to understand why these “glitches” eventually break and how they are actively poisoning your results.
The first is lewd or rude button pushing—violating social rules just to see what you can get away with. Some guys think sticking a finger in a girl’s nose or being overtly insulting proves they are high-value because they aren’t afraid of the reaction. It’s fool’s gold.
While it might get you noticed, it’s a massive “leveling” mistake. Leonardo DiCaprio doesn’t need to be a social nuisance to get a girl’s attention. By relying on gimmicks that annoy or offend, you are providing an honest signal that you lack the intrinsic value to attract her normally.
Then there is the temper tantrum. A guy gets rejected, his ego bruises, and he lashes out.
You might think you’re “holding your frame” by telling her off, but the opposite is true. If your frame was truly strong, you wouldn’t feel the need to fight for it. You don’t argue with people about whether gravity exists because you just know it does.
Getting angry proves you have doubt. A man with a truly high-value identity finds a rejection funny or feels a bit sorry for the girl because he knows exactly what she’s missing out on.
The final low-value behavior is turning your win into her loss—bragging about your “conquests,” posting photos without consent, or violating her trust for social clout. This is the ultimate low-abundance move. If having sex with a girl is such a rare event that you have to broadcast it to the world, you aren’t the man you’re pretending to be.
Integrity is a competitive advantage.
I always keep my promises to girls, even the small ones like a taxi ride home after a night where nothing happened. I do it because it creates total congruence in my voice, my eyes, and my tonality. When I tell the next girl she can trust me, there isn’t a single “micro-tick” of a lie in my body.
Game works best when it’s built on a foundation of reality, not a house of gimmicks. By taking a longer view and maintaining a higher moral compass, you don’t just become a better man . . . you become a more effective one.
—Todd V
