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3 EASY Steps To Playfully Tease Like A Fucking Champion.

The ULTIMATE CHEAT CODE To Making Your Interactions More Engaging.
 
How often do you try to playfully tease a girl and it doesn’t land well?
 
What you’re saying sounds kind of weird?
 
Try-hard?
 
Offensive?
 
Or even worse, you’re not trying to tease at all?
 
The conversation is nothing but agreeing, complimenting and overall too friendly.
 
It may seem like the interaction’s going well…
 
But after a while the girl slowly becomes disengaged.
 
Unfortunately, the harsh truth is that conversations like this are fucking boring.
 
They suck.
 
Want to know why?
 
It’s positive, positive, positive, agree, agree, agree.
 
It’s predictable.
 
I lacks emotional stimulus.
 
And it SCREAMS Mr Nice Guy.
 
The conversation is missing NEGATIVE POLARITY.
 
That’s exactly what Playful Teasing is…
 
Negative Polarity.
 
As well as playful teasing, other forms of negative polarity are disagreeing and challenging.
 
These are CRUCIAL to keeping your interactions engaging.
 
A Harvard Study on Dopamine and Smartphone Addiction has shown that when the brain receives too much of the same outcome, it’s easier for it to become disengaged.
 
Thus, a balance between positive and negative outcome is needed to keep the brain engaged.
 
Also known as “Reward Prediction Errors”.
 
This same technique is also used in casinos to keep players addicted to using slot machines.
 
This is what’s happening when you bring negative polarity into a conversation.
 
By agreeing with everything a girl says, you’re offering a constant reward.
 
The problem is that the outcome of the conversation becomes too predictable…
 
Making it easy for the brain to disengage.
 
THIS IS THE REASON why playful teases have such a strong impact on keeping the conversation engaging.
 
Want to stop coming across as Mr Nice Guy?
 
Start playfully teasing more.
 
This sticking point has been coming up CONSTANTLY with both my Online Clients and Bootcamp Students…
 
I feel like when I’m coaching guys I’m CONSTANTLY saying:
 
“Tease more god dammit!!”
 
So in today’s article I’d like to cover a few ways you can improve your ability to playfully tease…
 
And as a result make your interactions far more fun, flirtatious and engaging.
 
So without further ado…
 
3 Simple Tips To Make Playful Teases Easier:
 
1. Delivery
 
What’s the biggest difference between a Tease and an Insult?
 
Delivery.
 
Delivery is what makes the tease work.
 
Believe it or not I can get away with saying some pretty outrageous shit in my interactions…
 
And it’s all got to do with delivery.
 
The nature behind the delivery of a tease is that it’s not to be taken seriously.
 
Similar to the way you would tell a joke.
 
You’re expecting a good reaction.
 
You’re not having a serious debate about the topic.
 
You’re stating your thoughts and beliefs in a FUN way.
 
There are two practical aspects that can help to improve your delivery:
 
The first is to SMILE,
 
And the second is to use more RANGE in your vocal tonality.
 
Up and down.
 
Not monotone.
 
If you tease on a harsh topic with monotone tonality and a blank look on your face you’ll most likely get told to fuck off.
 
What would your delivery be like if you were telling somebody a joke that you knew would get a positive reaction?
 
This is very similar to how you should be delivering a playful tease.
 
Once you master delivery, it will be a game changer
 
2. Subtlety
 
Subtlety is MASSIVE.
 
Now this may take a bit to wrap your head around…
 
But with many techniques in game, LESS IS MORE.
 
The same applies here.
 
A common problem occurs when guys start to improve their wittiness…
 
They overdo it.
 
They put so much effort into these incredibly witty responses that it creates a problem…
 
They come across like they’re trying too hard.
 
Putting too much effort in.
 
Over gaming.
 
And thus coming across like they’re seeking a particular reaction from the girl.
 
The interaction loses all of it’s authenticity and the agenda becomes clear.
 
How do you prevent this?
 
Subtlety.
 
If you could get the same reaction by saying 2 words compared to 2 sentences…
 
Go for the 2 words.
 
For example, some of the best teases will come from you saying something like:
 
“Really? That’s… Kinda strange”
 
Or
 
“What the fuck?!, Did you actually just say that?”
 
When you combine subtlety with the right delivery it allows space for the mind to run wild.
 
It creates uncertainty.
 
And as a result it can create a vacuum for the girl, allowing her to invest and often start to qualify.
 
When you deliver a long and detailed witty response it can often destroy the opportunity for her to invest.
 
So with that in mind…
 
Practice using subtlety with your Playful Teases.
 
3. Negative Association
 
This is by far the most important…
 
This is how you come up with the content.
 
The “what to say.”
 
In most cases when you’re conversing with somebody, you’re receiving information, then finding an association to that information in order to deliver something relevant as your input to the conversation.
 
It sounds complicated…
 
But this is basically the mental process of coming up with things to say.
 
What happens too often though, is that when most guys go through this mental process their default is positive association.
 
How can I agree, compliment or reward this information.
 
So for example if a girl tells you she’s from New York, most guys would say something like:
 
“Oh that’s cool, New York is a really fun city, there’s always something fun to do”
 
The mental process is: “agree/complement and add positive information”
 
In order to start coming up with teases, you need to flip it.
 
You need to think: What is something that’s associated to this information in a NEGATIVE way.
 
You can then break it down further to:
 
How can this information have a NEGATIVE effect on either the person, the situation, or both.
 
So for example, New York is a very busy city. That’s something negative.
 
That can have a negative effect on somebody because in such a busy city, it could be hard to get sleep.
 
So a Playful Tease response to somebody living in New York could be:
 
“How the hell can you possibly live in New York City, it’s always so busy I feel like you’d never get any sleep”
 
The more you understand this thought process and familiarise yourself with it, the easier it will be to come up with content.
 
But how do you know what will be offensive and what won’t?
 
Unfortunately there’s no black and white answer to this.
 
As a general rule though, try to avoid teasing on topics that people may have strong beliefs behind.
 
For example, teasing on veganism to a vegan is extremely risky…
 
Many vegans treat veganism as more of a religion than a dietary choice and can get offended and combative when you introduce a negative perspective around it.
 
Try to tease on things that people aren’t strongly attached to or don’t have such strong beliefs towards.
 
In the process of learning this you may offend some people.
 
That’s fine.
 
You’re allowed to fuck it up, that’s the process of learning.
 
If that does happen, apologies and change the topic.
 
“Oh sorry, I didn’t mean to offend you. Anyway…”
 
When you start to practice negative association it will become effortless to come up with playful teases.
 
So I hope this helps you…
 
To summarize we have:
 
1. Delivery
 
2. Subtlety
 
3. Negative Association
 
If you feel like your interactions are too friendly and agreeable then please learn this.
 
I PROMISE once you start practicing this the quality of your interactions will skyrocket.
 
This is basically the foundation of flirting.
 
And as a result you’ll start getting more numbers, fewer flakes and more dates.
 
Let me know if this article was helpful.
 
With that in mind, if you have ANY suggestions for topics you’d like me to cover…
 
Look forward to hearing from you.
 
Speak soon.

 

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